Looking for southern style inspiration for your next birthday celebration? Atlanta-based event planner, Jan Hill, shares her journey from childhood etiquette classes to becoming the owner of J. Hill Events, and how her passion for creating unforgettable experiences culminated in a meaningful 50th birthday celebration. She delves into the vision behind her milestone birthday, held in her hometown of Greenville, South Carolina, and provides invaluable tips for planning your own special celebration
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I was born and raised in Greenville, South Carolina — a place filled with southern charm and sweet memories. It’s also where my love for weddings and celebrations was born. From a young age, I was drawn to beauty, details, and the joy of bringing people together. My mom, a gracious host who lovwatercolor multigenerational black family having sunday dinner on front porch
ed entertaining, was my first inspiration. She even enrolled me in an etiquette class called White Gloves and Party Manners in the second grade — where I learned how to properly set a table, greet guests, and even how to stand in the poised “Model T” position.
Little did I know, those small lessons would spark a lifelong passion. Nearly 20 years later, that spark has turned into a full-fledged career in event planning as the owner of J. Hill Events— one that allows me to do what I love every day: create unforgettable experiences for incredible clients.
So when it came time to celebrate my 50th birthday, I knew it needed to be meaningful, personal, and filled with intention.
The Vision Behind the Celebration
For my 40th birthday, I hosted a glamorous soirée at The Commerce Club, high above the lights of downtown Atlanta — my adopted home for nearly two decades. It was a black-tie affair complete with a full-length gown, sweeping views, and guests dressed to the nines. We danced the night away and had a ball.
But this time, as I approached 50 — a major milestone — I felt called to do something different. I found myself reflecting deeply on where I’ve been and where I’m going. And no matter how far life had taken me, my heart kept returning home to Greenville.
While Atlanta is full of resources and connections for me as a planner, Greenville — with its vibrant downtown, the Reedy River and Falls, and that familiar feeling only home can offer — felt like the right place to begin this next chapter. About 12 miles outside of downtown sits a hidden gem: Hotel Hartness, a stunning boutique retreat that felt like the perfect backdrop for a weekend of love, laughter, and legacy.
A Weekend to Remember
I curated a guest list of my closest family and friends — the people who’ve supported me, cheered for me, and stood by me through all of life’s seasons. From childhood friends to college besties and loved ones I’ve met in recent years, they all came together for a 50th Birthday Luncheon and Soirée.
Because I adore color (especially coral), I asked guests to wear citrus tones — and the result was a joyful, vibrant atmosphere full of warmth and style. It was a weekend filled with intentional moments, heartfelt connections, and beautiful reminders of just how rich life becomes when you’re surrounded by people who truly love you.
Tips for Planning Your Own Milestone Celebration
Planning an event for yourself can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are some tips I’ve learned from both my career and my own celebration:
💡 Start With the Vision
Ask yourself:
- How do I want to feel that day?
- What kind of setting excites me — a daytime brunch, glamorous evening affair, or relaxing weekend getaway?
- Who do I truly want to share the moment with?
This clarity helps shape your guest list, location, budget, and style.
💡 Be Realistic with Budget
Think in terms of a range. Even if you’re unsure of exact costs, know your top limit. Consider hosting a brunch or daytime event — many venues and caterers offer lower rates earlier in the day. Focus on a few wow moments (a floral statement piece, stunning cake, or photo-worthy backdrop) instead of trying to do everything.
💡 Plan Ahead
The earlier you start planning, the more flexibility you’ll have with vendors, venues, and accommodations — especially if guests are traveling. I sent out save-the-dates in advance so loved ones could plan accordingly.
💡 Lean on Experts
Hiring an event planner — even just for a consultation — can help you bring your vision to life, avoid costly mistakes, and actually enjoy your celebration without the stress.
💡 Add Personal Touches
From signature cocktails named after personal memories to photo displays and custom notes, your celebration should reflect you. One of my favorite elements was replacing traditional place cards with handwritten notes to each guest — a small gesture that made a big impact.
Final Thoughts: Celebrate with Intention
Milestone birthdays are more than just parties — they’re a time to reflect, give thanks, and boldly embrace the future.
My 50th wasn’t just about marking another year; it was about honoring the journey, showing gratitude to those who’ve walked with me, and stepping into this next chapter with joy and purpose.
If you’re planning your own milestone moment, give yourself permission to dream big — but more importantly, to dream honestly. Whether it’s an elegant dinner, a festive brunch, or a soulful weekend retreat, make it yours.
And remember: it’s not about impressing anyone — it’s about expressing the fullness of who you are.
Jan Hill
Owner and Principal Planner and Designer of J. Hill Events
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